Single and Young Adult Ministry
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About Singles MinistryAs a single adult, I know first hand the challenges of being single. From feeling lonely at times to the struggle of dating to family relationships to having all the responsibilities of home and work on your shoulders.
Although there are times when you do feel like you are alone, God has designed us to not be. He has put amazing people in my life as friends, colleagues, and supporters. My single journey has been amazing. As you discover that God's plan for you is where you are right now, in what you are doing, you will begin to see the joy that singleness can bring. Bring Kris to your city to challenge, encourage, and empower your single adults. Starting a Singles Ministry?Not every church is called to have a singles ministry but all churches are called to minister to singles. Over half of our country (the US) is now single. What a great untapped resource we have before us.
For more information on how to get started, go to TheSinglesNetwork.org. It's the largest resource for helping singles and leaders start, grow, and maintain their ministries. Literally hundreds of resources, from various tools to books, videos, newsletters, blogs, speakers, and so much more. At The Singles Network Ministries, my sole purpose is to assist you in building and maintaining your singles ministry. Successful singles ministry starts with helping single adults to: 1. Develop their identity in Christ 2. Find fulfillment in Christ 3. Pursue relationships with other believers 4. Grow in their relationship with Christ 5. Learn to disciple others Developing a single adult ministry is not about hosting social events or providing an environment for finding a mate. Instead, it's about teaching single adults to find Christ and, in turn, teach others to do the same. Relationships among group members will develop naturally as a result of their having right relationships with Christ. Who Is Reaching the Next Generation Coming Behind Us?By Kris Swiatocho, Director, The Singles Network Ministries
"One generation commends your works to another; they tell of your mighty acts." — Psalm 145:4 (NIV)
For more than three decades, God has allowed me the incredible privilege of serving singles across the United States and around the world. During that time, I have watched thousands of lives transformed by the power of Christ. I've witnessed people surrender their lives to Jesus, discover their purpose, heal from deep wounds, develop lifelong friendships, step into ministry, and yes, even walk down the aisle to begin Christ-centered marriages. Every one of those moments reminds me why I continue doing what God called me to do. Yet alongside those victories is a burden that has grown heavier with each passing year. It is a burden for the generation coming behind me. As I look across our churches today, I can't help but ask a question that refuses to leave my heart: Who is intentionally reaching singles in their 30s and 40s? Many churches do an outstanding job ministering to college students and young adults. Some churches have thriving ministries that reach singles through their twenties, sometimes up to age twenty-nine. They create community, offer Bible studies, organize events, and help young adults grow in their faith. Then something strange happens. The ministry ends. For many single adults, turning thirty feels less like entering a new season of life and more like aging out of the only place they truly belonged. Suddenly they are too old for young adults but don't fit anywhere else. No one intentionally disciples them. No one invites them into meaningful community. No one helps them navigate the unique questions and challenges of this next stage of life. Years later, we often see these same individuals again—but under heartbreaking circumstances. They're navigating divorce. They're grieving the loss of a spouse. They're overwhelmed as single parents. They're carrying years of loneliness, disappointment, unhealthy relationships, financial pressures, or spiritual discouragement. We find ourselves trying to help rebuild lives that may have looked very different if someone had walked alongside them during those critical years. I often wonder what might have happened if the Church had continued investing in them before the crisis, rather than waiting until afterward. Scripture reminds us that the Church is called to "prepare God's people for works of service, so that the body of Christ may be built up" (Ephesians 4:12). Preparation is proactive, not reactive. We shouldn't wait until people are hurting before we begin discipling them. The truth is, the thirties and forties are some of the most significant years of adult life. These are the years when people are making major career decisions, considering marriage, navigating dating relationships, caring for aging parents, purchasing homes, wrestling with loneliness, asking difficult questions about purpose, and wondering what God's plan looks like if marriage hasn't happened yet. These are not "waiting years." They are years of growth, influence, leadership, and spiritual formation. Too often, however, churches unintentionally communicate that ministry opportunities are available primarily to students, young adults, married couples, and families with children. If someone remains single beyond their twenties, they can begin to feel invisible. While that is rarely anyone's intention, it is often the reality many singles experience. One of the greatest misconceptions I encounter is the idea that a singles ministry should simply include everyone who isn't married. Imagine placing every married couple—from newlyweds in their twenties to retired empty nesters in their seventies—into a single marriage class and expecting everyone to relate equally. We would never do that because we understand that life stages matter. The same principle applies to singles ministry. An eighteen-year-old beginning college has different needs than a thirty-five-year-old professional. A forty-two-year-old hoping to marry one day is walking through different experiences than a sixty-year-old widow discovering life on her own again. While everyone benefits from worshipping together, discipleship is often most effective when people share similar seasons of life. Although every church is unique, I believe we should begin thinking intentionally about life-stage ministry rather than simply age-based ministry. Perhaps that means developing groups for ages 18–22, twenty-somethings, those in their thirties and forties, adults in their mid-forties through mid-fifties, and later seasons of life. The exact ages matter less than recognizing that every season brings different opportunities, struggles, and questions that deserve intentional care. My heart today is not simply to continue leading singles ministry myself. My greatest passion is to raise up those who will come after me. Paul told Timothy, "And the things you have heard me say...entrust to reliable people who will also be qualified to teach others" (2 Timothy 2:2). That verse has become deeply personal to me. Ministry was never intended to stop with one generation. Mature believers are called to invest in those who will continue the work long after we are gone. That is why I want to mentor younger leaders. I want to share what God has taught me over the past thirty-plus years. I want to encourage, equip, train, and walk beside men and women who have a heart for singles. Whether their church currently has a singles ministry or not, I want them to be prepared for the day God opens that door. Why? Because I meet these younger adults everywhere I travel. They're hungry. They're searching. They're asking hard questions. They long for authentic friendships. Most still hope to marry one day. They sincerely desire to honor God, but many don't know where to turn for biblical guidance regarding relationships, purpose, contentment, or community. They are looking for someone willing to invest in them. Unfortunately, in my experience with churches across the country, too many find very little. My concern extends beyond singles themselves because every healthy marriage begins with two healthy single adults. If we neglect singles today, we shouldn't be surprised when marriages struggle tomorrow. If we fail to disciple people before marriage, we will inevitably spend far more time repairing broken marriages later. Strong families begin with spiritually healthy individuals. Strong churches begin with spiritually healthy individuals. Future husbands and wives are today's single adults. The enemy understands that. Scripture tells us that "your enemy the devil prowls around like a roaring lion looking for someone to devour" (1 Peter 5:8). He delights in isolation, discouragement, confusion, temptation, and hopelessness. If he can convince singles that they have been forgotten, disconnected, or overlooked, then future marriages, families, churches, and even generations will feel the impact. But I refuse to believe the enemy wins. Jesus declared, "I will build my church, and the gates of Hades will not overcome it" (Matthew 16:18). Because of that promise, I can confidently say, "Get behind me, Satan." God is still calling people to Himself. He is still writing beautiful stories. He is still preparing future husbands and wives. He is still raising up leaders. He is still building His Church. And He is still looking for people who are willing to invest in the next generation before it is too late. So today, I want to ask you to join me in prayer. Pray for the young and single adults quietly navigating life without the support they desperately need. Pray that they will find godly friendships, wise mentors, and churches that embrace them rather than overlook them. Pray that pastors and church leaders will recognize that singles ministry is not an optional ministry but an essential investment in the future health of the Church. Pray that churches will begin seeing singles not as people waiting for life to begin but as valuable members of the Body of Christ who are called, gifted, and ready to serve today. Pray that more leaders will have the courage to launch ministries that intentionally disciple singles during every season of adulthood rather than only after life has fallen apart. And finally, pray that God will raise up a new generation of leaders—men and women who love Jesus, love people, and have a passion to reach the generation coming behind them. That is where my heart is today. I know I cannot reach everyone on my own, but I can invest in those who will continue the work. If Psalm 145:4 teaches us that one generation is to declare God's works to the next, then that calling belongs to every one of us. We cannot afford to leave an entire generation standing between young adult ministry and marriage ministry with nowhere to belong. The harvest is still plentiful (Matthew 9:37-38). The workers are still too few. And perhaps God is asking you the same question He has been asking me: What will you do to reach the generation coming behind you? ©2026 TheSinglesNetwork.org • www.KrisSwiatochoMinistries.org • www.IntentionalRelationshipSolutions.org |
How to Start a Singles Ministry
It's simpler than you think.
Start with Intentional Relationships for Singles 12-week study. What will this do for you? • Gather singles and young adults of all ages and walks of life. • Heal, restore, and renew relationships including family, friends, work, and romance. • Bring health to your singles ministry and your church. • Build community We are only a phone call away! 
Once you have started your Intentional Relationship course, here are some other resources:
Watch these videos below in order: • Part 1: Singles Ministry Overview • Part 2: Challenges of Singles Ministry • Part 3: Reasons to Start/Culture • Part 4: Leadership Development • Part 5: The Next Steps >More videos from Kris >More Videos from Others Download these free outlines on how to: • Starting Singles Ministry from Scratch • How to Develop and Keep Leadership • Visit Tools for more free resources
Note: For groups starting or looking to grow, don't forget the "Leaders That Last" Curriculum by Kris Swiatocho. A great 6-week study/training that will take your leadership from the basics of their calling in singles ministry to building the team. For over a hundred videos, tools and other resources, go to www.TheSinglesNetwork.org Ministries
Boundless Interview with Kris Swiatocho
Reaching Singles in GermanyReaching Singles in Austria
"I have had the privilege of speaking alongside Kris Swiatocho during several Overcomer LIVE events, and it has been a joy to minister together. Kris has a genuine passion for helping people grow in their relationship with Christ and communicates biblical truth in a way that is practical, engaging, and encouraging. Her authenticity and willingness to share from her own life allow people to connect with her, and I have seen many encouraged and challenged through her teaching. I appreciate her heart for ministry and her desire to faithfully point people to Jesus. I am grateful for the opportunities we've had to serve together and would gladly recommend her as a speaker for churches, conferences, and ministry events." -- Cory Nickols, Founder, Cory Nickols Ministries |
Annual Singles and Leaders Retreat
Great Additional Resources for Your Singles Ministry
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